Teenage Dating Advice

Dating someone new can be the most exhilaratingly sweet rush ever! You get an exclusive opportunity to get attention from, and give attention to, your crush you've been thinking about so much.

In the beginning, it’s all new and everything seems great. You fantasize about being your fierce, darling, witty, super-fun self — always saying the right thing at the right time and looking fabulous while doing it. And, the two of you get to spend time together. The first-date fantasy is sooo working for you.

But then, the questions start rushing in: How do my parents feel about me dating? What are my feelings for him? Where are we going to go? What am I going to wear? And...is it even a date?

Clearly, there's a lot to handle.

here are some advice:

Talk to Your Parents About Dating 
Remember you need the approval of your parents to start dating. Yes, dating has changed since mom and dad were your age, but talking to your parents about dating is important.

Being open will strengthen your relationship with your parents and help you understand more about your feelings and dating as they ask questions and discuss their opinions.

Set Boundaries 
Setting boundaries is key to a healthy relationship. Don’t let anyone talk you into participating in activities you aren’t ready for. If anyone is pressuring you to do something you don’t want to do, get yourself out of the situation, and end this relationship. Respecting one another’s boundaries is a non-negotiable when it comes to dating.

Don’t Make Having a Boyfriend Too Important. 
More than likely you are not going to meet the guy you will spend the rest of your life with during middle school or high school. So don’t lose those friendships you have spent so long to build by canceling plans and only hanging out with your boyfriend.

But then there’s also this dreaded situation: You and your BFF have a crush on the same guy. If that’s the case, the Being Girl Experts have a recommendation, too: Don’t abandon your friend for a guy you won’t date for very long. The relationship could end. And you could find yourself heartbroken with one less girlfriend.

If you do end up getting into a relationship with a guy, the BeingGirl Experts have some suggestions:

When it comes to a relationship, take everything into account. Being infatuated with a guy could make you miss some red flags: his lack of commitment to exclusivity if you both agreed to it, keeping you a secret from his friends, consistently rescheduling dates, etc. It’s important to take a step back every now and then to make sure the relationship is healthy from an outsider’s point of view, too!

Our Experts also recommend stopping by a bookstore to find a book on dating you believe is right for you. There are many choices available so it is important you select a book you will be engaged in and want to learn from.

Dating should be fun and you should treat one another with respect. If respect isn’t there, you aren’t dating the right guy.

wise up project @ metropolitan college, Isolo, November, 2013.

The heartminders/ naijateenz club project was held @ metropolitan college, isolo. In November  2013, we had the priviledge of talking to the teenagers and  teachers in general, with more emphasises on the teens. we talked about sex, when to have sex and been  ready to face the consequences of premarital sex.  The idea is to orientate these teenagers against premarital sex, advising them to focus more on their studies, become more responsible and answerable to their actions if need be. Teenagers zip up and face your studies.

The heartminders Project Wise -up

Eko Teenagers Club Against Child Marriage

“ I ask you all so earnestly to open girl’s schools in every village and try to uplift them. If the Conditions of women are raised, then their children will, by their noble actions, glorify the name of the Country. “ —Swami Vivekananda

Today’s girl child will be the mother of tomorrow. As a mother she can give her child a sound nursing and capable upbringing. A woman has the maximum impact on the social, economical decisions making in the family generally. At micro level, educated woman help in making the whole family including the older family members, understand the values and importance of education, and at macro level, educated women add to the social and economical development of the nation.

Girls education is like sowing the seed which gives rise to green, cheerful and full grown family plant. In ancient time girl’s education had a significant place in the society. Gargi and Maitreyi played very encouraging role in spreading the education to a great extent.

Women’s social conditions started deteriorating with the passage of time. Instead of giving them education, they are being subjected to sufferings under Purdah System, Child marriage. In some states female infanticide is prevalent even today. A new culture of elimination of female foetus has gradually become rampant discrimination between the education of girl and boy is common in rural areas. Parents feel that the education of girls is a wastage as they will go to their husbands after marriage and more dowry have to be paid for a more educated girl. The poverty and illiteracy among the people is also big reason for not sending the girls to schools and colleges. But things are being changed, though slowly, but gradually.

The various awakening programmes launched by the government for encouraging the girls education, the introduction of TV’s in rural areas, the 33% reservation given to females in Panchayats, have played positive role in this direction. Now the important of educating the girls is being felt. Several other policies, like 30% reservation to women candidates in services, enhanced subsidy to girls entrepreneurs, various self employment schemes launched for the benefits of women like Women Entrepreneur Development Programme, Self Help Groups of women have resulted in mobilizing and directing the parents to get their daughters educated. The educated women can help in eradicating many social evils prevalent in the society, like Dowry, killing the female foetus, discrimination in the matter of education of the girls , illiteracy and so on. Many programmes of the government like population control, polio eradication, programmes relating to the development of the rural area in which the cooperation and coordination of the rural masses are necessary, can well be taken care by the women representatives of the Panchayats. If these representatives are educated the implementation of the programs will be a grand success. Education gives effectiveness and confidence to the women.

Undoubtedly true that girl’s education stimulates educational consciousness and civic sense among the family members. She can teach the family members more comfortably than anyone else. Illiteracy is the cause of many ills. The present day corruption in the bureaucracy particularly in the implementation of the schemes for the development of the rural segment to a large extent is because of the ignorance and illiteracy among the rural representatives. A woman influences the activities and decisions of family than anyone else. The educated girl can shoulder any kind of responsibility. See the example of Kalpana Chawla, Kiran Bedi, Sonia Gandhi, Sushma Swaraj, Uma Bharati, and so .. , everyone has earned a name in the society in our country. For the success of a person whether man or woman, education plays an important role. Education for the girls is more important as she not only builds the home but all routine responsibilities are taken care of by her. An educated woman not only helps in nourishing the family in a better way but can also help in earning. Rightly said that God made the mother because He could not be present every where. “One could judge the degree of civilization of a country by the social and political position of its women” -Charles Fourier

Education for a girl child means making the next generation well educated, full of virtues, free from the useless superstitions, confident and capable to do something good for the family, for the society and for the country as a whole. The present day girl is the mother of tomorrow. “Give me good mothers and I will give you a great nation” -Napoleon

She is the most crucial and reverend entity. She must be given all the necessary education. Ignoring her, keeping her illiterate means we are creating an illiterate and ignorant generation. So it is perfectly true that educating a girl child means educating a family.Development cannot be accelerated unless girls are given right education in right direction. Swami Vivekananda has rightly said, “Educate your women first and leave them to themselves, then they will tell you what reforms are needed.”

Talk To Your Teens About Sexual Orientation

There are two reasons it is very important for you to show your teens your acceptance of all lifestyles. One is personal - It is so important to let them know that the most important thing for you is their happiness. If they are worried that you will reject them, or even just be disappointed, they may hide their true selves from you and what kind of relationship will you have?

The other reason it is so important to show tolerance, acceptance and hopefully even fight for gay rights and gay marriage is that kids often emulate what they learn at home. Prejudices aren't born, they are learned. Please make it clear that we are all people and we all deserve to be treated equally, whether we are men or women, white or black, straight or gay, etc.

If you have a religious argument against other sexual orientations than your own, I really don't understand it. If you believe in God, and you believe that God created all people, then God created people of all sexual orientations.

Having a talk with your teens about sexual orientation isn't a one time thing. It would be wonderful if the state of mind around all homes, especially homes with kids growing up, were free of all prejudices.

Wise Up .....Season 11

One thing which defines the teenage years for most parents is a difficult time with discipline as well as boundaries. Teenagers want to assert their independence, and it could oftentimes be conflict with those rules you have established for your family. Handling these conflicts positively will be crucial and will set a great example for your teenager in their adolescent development into adulthood. It is difficult parenting teenagers; you just have to be patient and allow us mentor them as we begin wise up(season 11)....a life modelling campaign .

Heartminders Essay Competition for Teenagers 2012

Essay Competition for Teens

Encouraging and Appreciating teachers, act of giving and relationship. Heartminders, under its teenage project; treasured teens club, welcomes entries for its 2012 Essay Competition for teens in Lagos state ONLY.  Please send in a brief essay on any of the following topics not exceeding 400 words:

• What the teacher is, is more important than what he teaches – Karl A. Menninger
•  We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.  ~ Churchill
• “Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.”
  ― Candace Bushnell
•  It's not that successful people are givers; it is that givers are successful people. ~ Thor

Prizes

1st Prize:  a laptop , N50, 000 Cash and a certificate of merit

2^nd  Prize: a mini laptop, N20,000 cash and a certificate of merit

and 3^rd  Prize: N50,000 and certificate of merit

Next best 20 entries will receive “Certificates of Merit” and books and promotional items from our sponsors.

Pictures from this the event will be published by treasuredteensblog, heartminders.blogspot.com, heartminders.blogspot.com and all our media partners

Dates to Remember

November 16, 2012 – Entry opens

December 7, 2012 – Entry closes

Winners will be announced at an open event on Friday, December 14th, 2012 by 12noon.

Venue: D Event Centre,The light Plaza, 32, Association Avenue, Ilupeju by Obanikoro Bus/Stop, Ikorodu, Lagos

Rules and Regulations

•  This competition is open to all teens (those born between June 1, 1991 and May 31, 2000)
• All entries must be written in English
• No more than one entry will be accepted from each teenager
• The essay should be original (do not plagiarise)
• The heartminders project reserves the right to publish the essays once submitted for this competition      
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  Evaluation Criteria
  Based on Originality, Clarity, Practicality & Scalability; a tip: do not wait for the deadline; early submission gives you an opportunity to get feedback to improve your essay!
  Submission
  Please include a cover page with the details: First Name, Last Name, Date of Birth, Sex (M/F), Email Address, Contact Address, Phone Number, Current Grade/Class and School name. Name and email id of the school teacher or Principal is required for those writing about teachers.
  All entries must be sent via mail to.......
  heartminders@gmail.com or heartmindersessay@yahoo.com 
  
  
  Contact Us
  For more information:
  
  
  funkeoguntuga@gmail.com
  08098300634
• Good luck